Buddha was approached by a monk who asked ” How can I reach nirvana and become as enlightened as you?” Buddha replied “Your purpose in this life is to be a monk not to become buddha. You are perfect the way you are.” The monk went home and then killed himself. He’d give it a go in the next life. Buddha was deeply saddened. He didn’t mean for the monk to kill himself. Buddha would have to work hard, strive to explain better, so that was to never happen again.
The point? Everyone should work hard to be the best. Everyone should strive to become an excellent human being. Even Buddha had to work hard. No one is perfect. No one is born the best, the smartest, the most emotionally balanced and/or the most physically fit. Don’t lie to kids or adults and tell them to stay just the way they are. Tell them to work hard and strive to be excellent, to always better themselves, and always reach for the stars.